Being a working mom is a juggling act that often leaves us feeling torn between the responsibilities of motherhood and the demands of our professional lives. The internal battle between "I'm not a good mom" and "I'm not a good business owner/employee" is a struggle I feel daily. It’s that mom guilt that creeps up when I lay down at night and things get quiet.
One of the biggest challenges facing working moms is the constant feeling of being torn between family and career. The guilt of missing out on precious moments with children while striving to meet professional expectations can be overwhelming.
The Myth of Work-Life “Balance”:
The concept of work-life “balance” can sometimes feel like an unattainable myth. As a working mom, it's essential to understand that achieving “perfect balance” might be unrealistic. Instead, focus on finding harmony and creating a lifestyle that works for you and your family. What’s YOUR vision of success?
Overcoming Mom Guilt:
Mom guilt is a persistent companion for us working moms. The feeling of not being present enough for our children or not meeting their needs can weigh heavily on our minds. It's crucial to recognize and challenge these thoughts, understanding that quality matters more than quantity.
Striving for perfection in both parenting and the workplace will lead to burnout. Embrace imperfection, recognize that it's okay to ask for help, delegate tasks (a shoutout to our house cleaner Blanka and two food delivery services: Thistle and Chantelle Cheng), and acknowledge that not every day will go as planned.
Effective Time Management:
Efficient time management is a key skill for working moms. Prioritize tasks, set realistic goals, and communicate openly with both your family and employer about your commitments and boundaries. And again, ask for help about outsource tasks when you can, ie: house cleaning, cooking, ect.
Building a village!
Surround yourself with a supportive network of friends, family, and colleagues who understand the challenges you face. Have you ever wondered why some friends open you up to new possibilities and bring out the best in you? They’re called “expanders,” focus on finding more of these types of friends and consider removing the negative people in your life.
Lean on your support system during difficult times, and don't hesitate to ask for help when needed.
Looking after you, Self-Care as a Priority:
Taking care of yourself is not a luxury but a necessity. Schedule regular moments for self-care, whether it's a quiet cup of tea, a workout (my husband and I have really gotten into pickleball lately), or a few minutes of meditation. Recharging your own batteries is essential for being the best mom and professional you can be. You will be amazed by the difference you feel!
Celebrating Successes, Big and Small:
Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, both in your professional and personal life. Recognize that you are doing your best, and that is more than enough.